What you eat can be the ultimate reason you want sex – or don’t want sex – with your life partner on any given day. Food can have effects on how you physically feel, how you psychologically feel, how you look, how you think you look, how you smell and how you-think-she-thinks you smell.
That’s a lot to handle. You best have a grasp of what you eat over the course of the day if you plan to have sex with her, especially if your sex life isn’t as healthy as you wish it was.
Some foods can have a positive effect. Some foods can have no effect. Unfortunately, many of the tasty or quick ones may have a negative effect on your desire for sex. And I’m not referring to a change in a man’s libido; the physiological changes that occur when you eat a particular food. Instead, I am referring to how you feel your look, your scent and even your taste will be perceived by your partner.
Evidently, the closer that food is consumed to that crossroads of to have sex or not to have sex, the greater the effect.
Here are my tips on foods to avoid and foods to consume to build your confidence, desire and sexual relationship with your special someone. There is little science behind my list; this is mostly based on my personal experience and perceptions:
Foods to Avoid
I can confirm that fried foods have definitely had negative effects on my sex drive. I know this for one simple reason; I have never felt good about myself after eating French fries, corn dogs, or chicken nuggets.
Not only are they often served in too-large portions (or just too easy to “just have a few more”), but the grease I consumed weighs heavy on my body, drains my energy, and makes me feel like the oil is seeping through my pores and stinking up the whole room I am in. Needless to say, all these are elements which wouldn’t ignite my desire for a sexy night with my woman.
High carbohydrate content (late)
Carbs, even the good ones like pastas, breads and rice, are a double-edged sword. They provide energy and are recommended for people who will partake in a demanding physical activity. However, they have to be consumed in regular portion (roughly the size of one fist for pasta servings) and 2-4 hours before the activity. Let’s be honest, if you’re going to an Italian restaurant, you’re likely having the opposite; 2-4 fist-sized servings about one hour before the activity. This will likely make you feel bloated and sleepy, and will convince you to have sex tomorrow/some other time.
High salt content
Foods covered in salt also can create the effect of bloating. Even if you’re eating veggies, if those mushrooms and peppers are drenched in salt, you will be retaining more water than usual (the natural effect of salt), which will likely make you feel bigger in all the wrong areas. Furthermore, salt makes you very thirsty, giving you the impression that you have dry-mouth – another turn off for yourself for wanting to make love to your woman.
This is a given, right? It’s difficult to feel sexy with onion or garlic breath. Beyond the overly-evident ones, even hot dog breath can be a sex drive killer. Your woman may even tell you. Face-to-face closeness during intercourse is a large contributor to the passion that can be built between two people, but it is difficult to get carried away in the moment if the scent of your breath is at the back of your mind.
Beans comes to mind, but everyone’s body is different. You know your body, or at the very least, you should start studying it. Know what makes you gassy. It is very difficult to be confident when you’re naked if your body is building up gas while you’re in very vulnerable positions. I agree, it’s actually pretty funny to think about. But we’re building your sex drive here, so get passed the humour… at least for now.
Ok, “killers” is over-the-top. I’m not actually talking about those foods which allegedly reduce your sperm count, but rather those that negatively affect its taste and scent for your woman. Again, confidence comes into play. You will more easily get carried away with the moment if you are confident that your taste is more pleasant (or less unpleasant for some). The foods I have been told that negatively change the taste of semen happen to be the same ones that I believe give of my urine a distinct odour, like asparagus, broccoli, and citric acids. Well… aren’t I just sharing EVERYTHING today.
This is the ultimate sex-drive killer. Overeating has physical, physiological and psychological effects on my body, and has led me to put off sex more often than any other aspect of my life. My perceived sex appeal decreases because I feel my stomach is rounder and i think it looks like its laying over the top of my pants. Suddenly, I also feel like i developed actual man boobs, that were not there before dinner. Further, my insides are making noises, and that is just going to ruin the mood when things get quiet.
I’m just going to go to bed. I’ll have sex with her tomorrow.
Foods to Consume
High in protein (meats, fish)
Once you get passed the fact that meats and fish don’t need to be fried to be tasty, a delicious piece of grilled chicken, oven-baked salmon or barbecued trout nourishes my body, keeps me awake, eliminates my hunger, and keeps my energy levels high. Furthermore, a good dose of lean protein makes me feel like I’ve eaten foods that contribute to my muscle mass rather than my waistline. Let’s be honest, there’s no actual difference. Who cares, it’s a great way to start feeling good before getting naked.
Whether they are grilled, boiled, baked or raw (careful with the dip though!), vegetables makes us feel like we’re doing something good for our bodies. Couple it with some tasty salads dressed with olive oil or balsamic vinegar, and you’re on your way to a confident night with your lady. And for those who don’t like vegetables, picture it as sacrificing taste in return for rewarding your body and your partner.
There are lots of natural sugars in fruits, I know, I know. But natural sugars are different from those found in a Duncan Hines cake and they are easier to burn. If you’re in the mood for a romantic night, you will likely be burning calories for some time as well. So when comes time for the dessert platter, consider the fruit. You can have a couple of Ferrero Rocher chocolates after sex, it’s a great way to re-reward yourselves.
Speaking of chocolate, start loving dark chocolate. Not only will she love it. Not only is it delicious. Not only does it satisfy your sweet-tooth without over-consuming. But it also makes the taste of your semen more enjoyable for her…. If she’s into that kind of stuff.
Ever have someone ask you this question: “if you had to give up one of the following – cheese or receiving oral sex – for the rest of your life, which would you choose?” Most people start with the thought of cheese, but then start thinking of how pizza would never taste the same again. Cheese is delicious, but some of the intense cheeses fall in the smelly food category, which is a no-no. So have some cheese with your woman, and make it a light one like cheddar, mozzarella, brie or bocconcini.
If you’re forced to have carbs in the evening, fine, you can succumb, but make it whole wheat. Frankly, whole-wheat goods can differ in calorie count, in fact, some whole wheat goods (like breads) may actually have higher calories and be equal in other nutrients as its white-bread brother. Whole wheat is all about perception for me. I feel like I’m doing something better for my body therefore I AM doing something better for my body. I can get naked now. Come over here woman.
Smaller (normal) portions
Ah, the North American enemy; a regular, standard portion. This is a game changer. Our brain requires time to register the fact that our hunger is satisfied. This means that we can decrease our odds of overeating by eating slowly and avoid that awful feeling when we regretfully place our palms at the top of our stomach, right at the dinner table. When I believe I can have a great night ahead with my woman, I like to eat like if I was to play a sport later that evening. I want to feel like I will be at the apex of my physical health… of the last 24 hours (let’s be realistic here, most of us aren’t fine-tuned athletes). I want to feel as good as I have felt since yesterday, and that will give me the confidence and desire to engage in some good sex.
Is it too late to say I am not a nutritionist? You may have already known this because some of the assumptions I have made about food might be scientifically wrong. But as you can see, for me, food is all about feeling and perception.
Therefore, I am not recommending this as a daily diet. These are my recommendations for men who are struggling to maintain a healthy sex drive and are determined to turn things around in their life. On a given day where you plan to have sex with your woman, these are logical tips that are worth trying, so that you can knock down yet another obstacle to having the sex you want.